Musings on the 9th of January 2016 (okay so I can't think of a title)

I made that thing above on New Year's Eve. 

I don't like the idea of new year's resolutions, so this is definitely not that.

These are not instructions, rules or demands on myself. 

These are compassionate suggestions and reminders about what could nurture my body, mind and soul throughout this year and beyond.

If I don't manage them all straight away, or ever, then that is okay. 

So many of these resolutions we put on ourselves involve such massive changes and are pretty unattainable. So we end up burning out and then beat ourselves up because we failed.

If there is a change you want or need to make in your life, then making a scary goal with strict rules is probably not the way to go about it. It has to come from a place of knowing that it is exactly what you need to flourish and that you deserve it. You don't need to wait until a certain date to make this loving, compassionate change but I also believe that you need to be ready. 

That being said, I don't think anyone is ever 100% ready, but you do need to be willing to take a risk, to know that slip ups are not failures and that things take time.

Try not to be hard on yourself if you don't go to the gym every day, if you give in to that cigarette, if you just really want that cheeseburger, or you have 'broken' whatever rules and restrictions you've put on yourself because the month became January again. 

If you are able to, then please be kind to yourself instead. 

You haven't failed. You are not bad. 

You are trying, you are human and you are still wonderful. (obvs)